Explaining her divorce filing from NBA player Kris Humphries
after only ten weeks of marriage, reality star Kim Kardashian released this
statement: "I hope everyone understands this was not an easy decision. I
had hoped this marriage was forever but sometimes things don't work out as
planned." Court documents cite irreconcilable differences as the reason
behind the divorce. Humphries seems upset by the filing, saying he is “devastated”
and willing to work on the marriage.
Apparently, they had plenty of time to plan an elaborate
made-for-television wedding, spending lavish amounts of money, but they don’t
have time to plan their marriage and discuss the issues that are now
irreconcilable.
What thinking in our culture has led to the “minute marriage”
or even those that last longer but get no more effort to fix the problems than
this one? What attitudes that devastate marriage are flourishing even in the
church? Here are three thinking patterns I hear when I listen carefully.